Father optional

So I guess I'm in a good position to pose this question...when did being a father to your child become optional?

Its not really a problem I deal with because both of my daughters' fathers are present and involved, even if they aren't in the house. But as I read the paper here each day and read about this gang warfare, and all these mothers burying their sons and the killing...I just have to wonder, when did it become ok to just drop your seed off in a female and then peace out completely? As a man, do they not feel beholden to their children at all? As a mother, I can barely stand being away from my children for a day, let alone their entire lives. So its just a mystery to me.

But when I see the road our people are spiraling down, it just saddens me that there are so many "donors" in the world. I mean, I know it goes both ways, because yeah, women can make better choices. Of course, that's true. BC is free in all 50 states :) And condoms are too. But if as a man, you end up creating a baby regardless of whether you wanted her/him or not...you don't feel ANYTHING? Nothing makes you think you should stick around and raise your child or at least let him/her know you'll be there despite your relationship with the mother?

And I know its been going on for at least a generation, there are a bunch of people my age who have not seen their father ever or only a couple of times...not so much with white people though. Hmmm. Wonder why that is. Something to think about...